Hi, I’m Nell Wulfhart (she/her),
decision coach
(a life coach, relationship coach, and career coach—in one.)
“She has an unvarnished warmth that lands somewhere between cool aunt and favorite camp counselor.”
New York Magazine
My journey to decision coaching didn’t start with your typical story of struggling to make a decision. Honestly, I’ve spent my entire life going for it.
Taking leaps of faith. Flinging myself into the abyss of the unknown. Making big, life-changing decisions quickly, fearlessly, confidently. Decisions like
ending a relationship ✅
moving abroad ✅
quitting a full-time job to go freelance ✅
starting my own business (you’re looking at it) ✅
As a life coach, I’ve helped with pretty much every kind of decision you think of. But this isn’t just a job—I’ve always been the person friends and family turn to for no-nonsense, straightforward advice. If someone wanted an unvarnished, no-BS point of view? That’s what I was there for. I have a fixer brain—tell me your troubles and I will immediately start figuring out a plan of action. In fact, I did so much of this unofficial decision coaching that eventually a friend told me, kindly, to SHUT UP. She suggested I take my fixer tendencies and use them to help other people. That was in 2013. Since then I have coached students, parents, politicians, Olympians, MMA fighters, retirees, tech workers, CEOs, artists, and hundreds and hundreds more. (Check out my results here).
I offer a completely unbiased, third-party perspective. I can see your choices clearly, and I can identify what’s right for you in a way that the people closest to you can’t.
My ability to problem-solve works perfectly for people who have big decisions to make and need real, practical help to get the results they want. Want a peek into my process? Read interviews with me ⬇️, listen to the podcasts I’ve been on ⬇️, or read my blog posts and published articles.
THE DECISION COACH podcast, out now!
I’m so thrilled to announce that this podcast—the product of many, many months of work!—is now out! THE DECISION COACH is six episodes of about 30 minutes each, and in every episode I coach a client through a big decision. One person is deciding whether to move across the world to pursue his dream of becoming an actor, another wondering if she should drop out of college even if it means her mother will never speak to her again, a third is considering leaving a sexless marriage—and that’s just to start!
You’ll get a front-row seat to real-time decision-making, as I coach people through the toughest choices they’re facing. I show them how to get unstuck and move forward. And each session is filled with plenty of actionable, useful tips to help YOU get better at making decisions in your own life!
Find it on Audible, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get podcasts!
Read About Me
Listen To Me
I’d say 90% of my professional and personal success is due to acting quickly. Make a decision, take action, iterate based on results. Like a decision-making shark, I don’t stop moving. I’ve made all of my BIG life-changing decisions fast, with no regrets. I don’t still think about them. They don’t keep me up at night.
And I have been able to do so much as a result:
I wrote a celebrity interview column for The New York Times for 3 years (check it out here!)
I wrote a book on flight attendants and feminism in the ‘60s that was on the cover of The New York Times Book Review (check it out here!)
I’ve had many articles published in magazines like Food + Wine, Condé Nast Traveler, Travel & Leisure, Bon Appétit, and more (more about my journalism career here!)
I’ve lived all over the world, from Dublin to Saigon to Colombo
I want that same happiness for you.
You’re here because you want to make a decision. You’ve been stuck, you don’t know up from down anymore, your friends and family have too many opinions, you want to get this decision made so you can move on with your life.
This is what I will help you do:
Seize the day.
Act on opportunities.
Live a life you love, even when it’s scary.
(Especially when it’s scary.)
Let me tell you what's on the other side of that big decision you’ve been afraid to make:
Excitement.
Energy.
Relief.
Happiness.
And a bonus: never having to think about that particular decision again!
Are you ready to make that tough decision
(and get back all that time and energy and brainspace) ?
How to stop wondering and finally decide
In our 1-hour session, we will make the decision that’s been keeping you up at night.
You’ll tell me about the choice you’re trying to make. I’ll ask you lots of questions. I’ll evaluate your options. Then ask more questions. I do this with love and with empathy. There is no shaming here, no embarrassment. We’re both on the same team.
As we dig in, I’ll figure out the answer: the thing you should do, and the thing you WANT to do. Usually, they’re the same.
Then I explain what led me to my recommendation, and show you how this choice fits into your future goals, how you can make it work, and what steps you need to take to move forward. By the end of the call, you’ll have your decision made, and you’ll know that it’s right.
In one session, I figure out the right choice for you…. and tell you exactly how to follow through.
The reaction I usually get?
“I feel so much better!”
Followed by a huge sigh of relief.
Read more about my process here:
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Confident in making a final decision
“The simple exercises she provided before our call inspired some much-needed self- reflection. After our talk, I felt confident in making a final decision that I had been avoiding for far too long. I learned some new ways of thinking that I can apply to future decisions as well!”
— Amber Chiapparine, California
